Help Yourself & Help Others
For some useful tips please see below, for more detailed information see the leaflets on our resources page here.
WHAT TO DO IF YOU FEEL SUICIDAL
Talk To Someone
One of the best things you could do is to talk to someone. Try talking to any of the following;
- A crisis line or the Samaritans
- A private therapist, counsellor, or psychologist
- A community mental health team
- A school teacher
- A doctor or psychiatrist
- A religious or spiritual leader.
Avoid using drugs and alcohol when you are feeling desperate or in a crisis. Although it is tempting to try to use them to try to numb painful feelings, they can make your emotions more volatile and affect your judgement.
Sosad Ireland now has a 24 hour emergency line for anyone at risk from suicide, so please contact us here if you feel that you cannot cope on your own.
We know that you believe that there seems to be no other way out. Your suicidal feelings should not be under-estimated - they are real and powerful and immediate. There are no magic cures.
But it is also true that:
- Suicide is often a permanent solution to a temporary problem
- When we are depressed, we tend to see things through the very narrow perspective of the present moment. A week or a month later, things may look completely different
- Most people who once thought about killing themselves are now glad to be alive. They say they didn't want to end their lives - they just wanted to stop the pain.
The most important step is to talk to someone. People who feel suicidal should not try to cope alone. They should seek help NOW.
Time is an important factor in ‘moving on', but what happens in that time also matters. When someone is feeling suicidal, they should talk about their feelings immediately .
If you are feeling suicidal right now and you need someone to talk to, contact us here.
What should you do if someone tells you they are thinking about suicide?
If someone tells you they are thinking about suicide, you should take their distress seriously, listen nonjudgmentally, and help them get to a professional for evaluation and treatment.
What To Do
Here are some ways to be helpful to someone who is threatening suicide:
- Be direct. Talk openly and matter-of-factly about suicide.
- Be willing to listen. Allow expressions of feelings. Accept the feelings.
- Be non-judgemental. Don't debate whether suicide is right or wrong, or whether feelings are good or bad. Don't lecture on the value of life.
- Get involved. Become available. Show interest and support.
- Don't dare him or her to do it.
- Don't act shocked. This will put distance between you.
- Don't be sworn to secrecy. Seek support.
- Offer hope that alternatives are available but do not offer glib reassurance.
- Take action. Remove any means of suicide available, such as stockpiled pills.
- Get help from persons or agencies that have experience and training in suicide prevention.
Be Quiet and Listen!
If someone is feeling depressed or suicidal, our first response is to try to help. We offer advice, share our own experiences, try to find solutions. We'd do better to be quiet and listen. People who feel suicidal don't want answers or solutions. They want a safe place to express their fears and anxieties, to be themselves.
There are a wide range of supports and services that can help in a crisis, including:
- The local GP or family doctor
- GP out-of-hours co-operative services
- Accident and emergency departments of general hospitals
Let the person know that you care about them and that they are not alone
If there is immediate danger, stay with them, or have someone else stay with them
- Get professional help for the person at risk and support for yourself
- Offer your support in finding alternative solutions
- Remove all available means to suicide
If someone you know is feeling suicidal right now and needs someone to talk to, contact us here.